Rachel Ministries
Hope and Healing after Abortion


Abortion Hurts

Many people hurt emotionally and spiritually after abortion.

You may not understand why you're feeling the way you do – and this is perfectly normal. The intense emotions that often accompany this experience can often lie dormant for some time. The initial feeling of relief is often followed by a subconscious desire for repression, as the intensity of the emotions felt are often times too much to bear – at least too much to bear alone. Let us be there for you.

 As the initial feeling of relief slowly wanes, it will soon give way to more negative feelings of despair, regret, hopelessness and ultimate detachment. It is this inevitable detachment that can, and often times does, impact other areas of your life; including your marriage, your children, your friends and your job.  Worse than this however, is the traumatizing effect it can have on your own self identity – how you see yourself in this world and how you think the world views you. It is this stage where the danger for emotional distress in its truly paralyzing form is both possible and probable. We can help.

Many who've had an abortion feel a great sense of loss.  This loss is very real – regardless of whether it is recognized by your family, friends or peers.  Your abortion has left you wounded emotionally, psychologically and spiritually – a wound that cannot be healed by time alone.  The more you attempt to repress it by simply ignoring it, self-medicating with alcohol or drugs or even punishing  yourself with self-destructive behaviors, the more you shadow yourself from the light and healing you so desperately need.  We can help you find that light – that place inside yourself that gives you permission begin to heal.

Hope survives.

The passage of time does not seem to heal this wound.  Many struggle with their emotional grief for years before they finally realize that they need help to conquer it.  It doesn't matter if your abortion occurred twenty years ago or twenty days.  You can still reach out for help and find hope again. The potential for emotional healing and spiritual rebirth is the destiny of every soul going through this
pain. Hope survives. And we can help you find it.

How do I know if I need help?

Although no one exhibits every symptom of post-abortion trauma, if you are experiencing at least 3 of the following symptoms, you may be suffering because of your abortion loss. 

  • Guilt
  • Depression
  • Anger, rage
  • Intense grief or sadness
  • Nightmares, flashbacks
  • Anxiety, panic attacks
  • Feeling emotionally numb
  • Spiritual divorce from God
  • Inability to forgive yourself
  • Eating disorders
  • Suicidal thoughts and feelings
  • Suicide attempts
  • Intense feelings of grief or depression around the anniversary date of the abortion or what would have been the delivery date
  • Low self-esteem
  • Substance abuse
  • Self-destructive behavior (cutting, excessive risk-taking, etc.)
  • Sexual dysfunction (either promiscuity or no interest in sex)
  • Marital and relationship difficulties
  • Problems with intimacy
  • Multiple abortions
  • Desire for "replacement baby"
  • Avoidance of babies, children and pregnant women
  • Problems bonding with other children (over-protective but emotionally distant)